Always put yourself first...
There Is a reason why you’re a part of The Red Pill Generation and that reason is because YOU made the decision to embark on this journey of self-improvement for YOURSELF. You began viewing the world with new lenses and that brought about success in one or more areas of YOUR life. Try to remember that, and you will almost always get better results - here is why I say this.
Don’t Feel Guilty
When you start to actually put yourself ahead of others, It’s natural to feel guilty - ignore this. You often have to make selfish decisions, to do the things that make you happy. You simply cannot make everyone else happy simultaneously. This mindset, that guilty feeling is just social conditioning, a fallacy, a trick.
You may be in a relationship with a psychologically unstable individual, your parents might be pressuring you to study law because it’ll be a good career or your religion might even restrict you from having sex till you’re married. Do you honestly think putting these external forces' wants before your own needs will make you happy?
There is nothing wrong with putting yourself before others, be it at work, with friends or family. At the end of the day, you are solely responsible for your own success and happiness. If you look at wealthy people, you will notice that a lot of them are very greedy and stingy, but they have the most money and keep it that way. They have to make executive decisions based on how what they are doing will benefit them, that’s how you create and maintain wealth.
Making Executive Decisions - Protect Your Prospects
If you've ever been to College or University, you’ll agree that a lot of guys mooch off other people’s successes, sometimes they may even cut you out from a potential girl or two. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t have attachment issues and look at every girl I meet as a wife, but I do admit to feeling a little frustrated - if I don’t see the results I should be getting. Especially when they were mainly situations I could have easily avoided.
We tend to associate an abundance mentality with a lack of selfishness and the scarcity mentality with selfishness. After all, if opportunities or resources are scarce people tend to compete more aggressively for them, right? While this is true, you still have to be selfish when you have an abundance of women - in some ways. For example, you do not always have to introduce them or their girlfriends to your guy-friends. Look at it this way; you’re the one who opened her up, who put in the work and the one who got this girl out of her regular routine. She started spending time with you and now you’re the one who is giving her value by allowing her to do so. Your buddies don't have to be a part of that, surround yourself with bros that provide value, not moochers.
I have learnt to make “executive decisions” when it comes to all my friends. I know a lot of people on campus, but I know I can’t keep tabs on the women I want to have sex with, if I’m pre-occupied assisting everyone else around me. Especially at parties, I now make decisions based on what's going to make me happy. I make it clear to my friends that I will help them after I finish talking to the women I am interested in, this way I don’t lose any attention from my prospects.
Let’s face it, it’s a jungle out there, whether you are in college or in the real world. The dominant male will always eat first and leave the leftovers for the rest. Be the alpha male you know you are and want to be first, then share what else you have with the rest of the pride. You've earned it, reaching your level of enlightenment and success didn't come easy so don’t let it go lightly.
Always put yourself first...