“Confidence cannot be learned.”
This is the most fucking ridiculous rumor about self confidence that I’ve ever heard, and I’m going to show you why.
Growing up, little Ash Croft always assumed that there were the confident people and the non-confident people. In school, this was most apparent with the cliques, the cool kids who hung out together seemed so self-assured all the time. The geeks were nervous and shy, afraid to venture outside their social circles. \the world seemed to have a pretty clear divide between the haves and the have-nots.
Everyone around Ash seemed to believe this as well, and when he asked about how he could become more sociable the common response seemed to be simply, “be more confident”. What does that even mean? For a logical person, it seemed that everyone knew the answer to the equation but had no idea what the variables were that made up the formula. Sure, there were clues as to what makes you a “confident” person, but they were vague and left little Ash more confused than when he started.
“Stand up straight”
“Be engaging and witty”
“Be really intelligent”
“Make tons of money”
“Say it with your chest!”
In theory, all of these and more seemed to add up to confidence. In practice, there were plenty people with half or none of those things, that were some of the most confident people little Ash knew.
As little Ash grew into Ash Croft, he discovered the principals of self-improvement. Basically, it teaches people how to cultivate confidence and positive personality traits within themselves. Through his research he found a plethora of examples of people, who completely changed for the better due to getting into self-improvement. Maybe it was reading the books, reading the blogs or the personalized coaching. Doesn’t matter, the point is, there are many resources out there to improve yourself if you’re willing to put the work in.
Ash Croft came to learn that through self-improvement you can cultivate a confident personality within yourself (I know that sounds very flower childish). Yes, some people do get lucky. They had experiences when they were younger that cultivated positive traits within themselves organically. That does not mean you cannot learn it.
All confidence is acquired.
There seems to be this false belief in society that people are either confident in themselves naturally or they are not. You either got it or you don't, kiddo. Bullshit, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Some people are born chess prodigies, some people become advanced after years of practice.
One of goals of The Red Pill Generation is to educate you on how to jump start your self-development process. Even if you are a hard nut, borderline Elliot Rodgers case, and your ideal self seems very far away, I believe you can get there. You can become your best self, or pretty close to it if you are willing to put in the work.
So read on young grasshopper, and let’s see high you can jump.